Well, Aloha, everybody! Welcome and thank you for coming to today’s podcast. My name is Paul Fletcher and this is The Healing Source. And in today’s episode which, by the way, it is the 22nd of February 2023 and in today’s episode we’re going to be talking about Tao Healing for Ego and Attachments. This is going to be a very interesting episode because this is categorized under the subject matter of Tao Healing for mental or mind-related blockages. So, a lot of people don’t actually believe that ego and attachments are considered mind-related blockages.
But, today we’re going to discover how they are and we’re going to discover the root cause of them and how ego and attachments actually create problems for you and your life, how they can be addressed with Tao Healing and minimized and, hopefully, removed with the ultimate goal of making your life a whole lot happier and healthier. So, I hope you are able to stay the entire half-hour. If you’re not, make sure to subscribe to my podcast, I’m on all of the major places, Apple and Google Podcasts and I can’t even think of half of them now but there are many and I’m on all of them. And please do share and let other people know about today’s podcast. For those of you who are just arriving, welcome! Today we’re going to be focusing on Tao Healing for Ego and Attachments.
So, when I created this series, when I created this podcast called The Healing Source the message that I received was to do it in a series. First, physical and I did a series of 7 or 8 videos including how does Tao Healing work so if you’re new to all of this you might want to go back to the first in that series. And then the second series is Tao Healing for all things emotional and I go into each of the major worries of the five elements including earth, wood, fire, metal and water.
And then those emotions have associations with specific emotions such as anger, anxiety, depression, worry, fear, and of course grief and sadness. And so I finished that series about 5 weeks ago and now I’m into session number 5 of the series three and I believe that I have one or two more in this series and then I’m going to go into relationships, Tao Healing for relationships. I hope that will be a popular subject matter, as well, and as a matter of fact, on a side note, I did just create an entire course on this. It’s an on-demand digital video course where you can take the consolidation of all of the wisdom that I can share with you about relationships and how to heal and transform your relationships as well as how to attract the ideal relationships to you. You can find that on my website wellspringoflight.com.
So, today, as shared, we will be focusing on Tao Healing for the mind blockages of ego and attachments. So, what is ego? What is attachments? Ego can be loosely defined as the way we express ourselves and if we were to start narrowing down on that expression can be exuberant, it can be neutral, and it can be under exuberant if there’s such a word. In other words, there’s actually ego associated with being meek and being docile because that’s a form of ego which a person has generated which is purposeful because it causes them to achieve a certain goal. No different than someone who is boisterous and over-zealous with their voice and attention-seeking behaviors, those are also for a specific goal. Ego in the largest swath is how we see ourselves and how we want the rest of the world to see us. So, very often ego can be how we present ourselves to the world but then inside our own head we can be our own worst enemy, that still falls under ego.
Now, that also falls under self-worth issues which are more along the lines of mental and emotional. So, ego has this very large range, I’m going to talk about why this is important to understand in terms of the state of your mind because you, you’ll by the time we’re done here today you’ll come to understand how by not being observant and conscientious of your ego and why it does what it does it can actually bring harm to you or you can start to adjust it to bring about better balance in your life. So, the other part of what we’re going to be talking about today is attachments. And I’ll pause as I want to welcome Sinley (sp?), welcome also Rosetta, everyone else that’s here, Don Garee (sp?), great to see you all, thank you for joining today, happy to see you all!
The other state of mind that can be negative to us is called attachments. Now, when most people when they think of mental or mind blockages ego and attachment does not necessarily fall into the first series of things they would be thinking about, they might be thinking of a mental disease of some sort which, by the way, we covered earlier in these sessions and so you’re welcome to go back and review those. Ego and attachments on the other hand are subtle disruptors of our entire life, why? Because from a Tao Healing perspective we are her to realign ourselves to the ultimate source and the process of accomplishing that means becoming less and less not becoming more and more.
The higher wisdoms share that the more information that we add to our life the harder it is to reach enlightenment. The less information we add to our life the easier it is to become one with all. So, isn’t that interesting? Ego and attachments act as deterrents to our highest version of our most aligned self. How does this happen? We know what ego is we know what, I haven’t discussed what attachments are yet so I’m going to touch on that now before we get into the how. So, what are attachments? Attachments can have a huge range. I was at the kitchen table with my wife and daughter and I typically sit in one position but I don’t have an attachment to it, it’s just where I typically sit but my daughter, I found out, has an attachment to it because my wife tried to sit there and she was having a fit. “No, no, no, no, you can’t sit there! You have to sit over here!” And she would not let my wife sit in my chair because she had an attachment to that, things had to be a certain way. So, attachments are not limited by age, we all have certain ways we want to see things. Have you ever been in a relationship and your spouse doesn’t put the lid back on the toothpaste…attachments. Or your spouse doesn’t put the lid back down on the toilet….attachments.
Or chocolate, that’s one of my attachments. So, attachments have a massive range, and they all boil down to the things that make us feel comfortable and safe and in a place where we’re not irritated. Well, if you look at life from the perspective of an Enlightened being, one who is free of anger, irritation, fear, worry, doubt, all of those things, that person lives life from a very conscious and awakened perspective. They could have a dog walk up and pee on their shoe and they wouldn’t kick the dog or yell at it, that would be an attachment to an expectation that they would not get peed on by a dog and that their shoe would not be ruined. They would simply look and say, “Hmmm, isn’t that interesting?” And they would go about their business, maybe wash it off and think nothing of it. So, attachments can be so wide and varied and, ultimately, they boil down to a purposeful expectation of what we would want or desire and in general there’s nothing really wrong with that. But a lot of us bring those attachments into our external relationships and even into our internal relationship with ourselves.
And this brings us to the why it’s important to work with ego and attachments because with ego you’ve heard before where we carry one or two faces, right? So, we have a face which is what the public sees, it’s what our friends or family sees and then the face we give to our best friend or internally in our own mind. We get down on yourself and you say I wish they wouldn’t do that, and we start pointing the finger outside of us but that’s our ego. We want to look good to others or save face and this creates a false sense for people. It creates despair, it creates depression, it creates anxiety, it creates fear about being judged or criticized, it creates low self-esteem because I’m not this enough and I’m not that enough. So, ego is not your best friend.
What is your best friend? It is honesty, honesty with yourself and honesty with those around you and if you’re afraid they’re not going to like you, well, that’s ego and so honesty is always going to be the best choice. Tao Healing would say look at where you bring your false self to any conversation whether it’s written or verbal. Look at where you’re bringing your false self even when you’re lying to yourself about what would truly make you happy, but you deny yourself. And when you start to acknowledge those things, you actually start to clear your field, you start to clear the mind clutter that somehow convinced you that that was the highest and best. Attachments, on the other hand, they’re quite a bit more subtle. They are literally built into our modus operandi.
When we walk through life, we go through life with attachments to everything from the way we open the door to go outside to the clothes we put on, how we put those clothes on. Do we put them in order first? Like when I shave, I usually shave left to right, but I try to force myself to be conscious and shave right to left or start on the top and work my way down or start on the bottom working my way up so that I can break attachments. As simple as that might sound, when we look at all the different habits that we have which have a reason for them because they bring about a pattern of comfortability. And then what happens is when someone rattles our comfortability it creates frustration, irritation, anger, etc.
We can have an attachment to being at work on time because, I leave at 8:35am because that puts me to work at 8:55am, so it’s a 20 minute drive and I have an attachment to it being done in 20 minutes because I have an attachment to my sleep and I don’t want to get up early and then I’m in the car and there’s a car accident and now I’m late and now I’m getting upset and I’m getting worried because I’ve already been late twice. But I don’t want to change my sleep attachment and I don’t want to get fired. You see, it creates these problems for us. So attachments, they literally are just are in every aspect of our life.
The highest wisdoms, the Taoist teaching, the Buddhist teachings, the higher wisdoms share that ego and attachments, amongst many other things, are all, they’re all appendages to this physical life that inhibits us from aligning our heart and soul to where our heart and soul want to be aligned to. You’ve heard me say many times before, if you know me, if you’ve been to any of my podcasts, that we are 99.9 percent space and .01 percent matter. That we are a soul first having a physical experience. But we operate in this life as if this physical experience is the 99.9 percent and our soul is an afterthought. This is just, like, what? We have a soul? I mean it’s .0001 percent but the reality is it’s exactly an inverse. So, the reason we want to release the physical blockages in the first series, the emotional blockages in the second and in this series the mind blockages, the reason we want to use Tao Healing to transform these is because they all inhibit our highest health, wellness and happiness.
Can you truly convince me that being angry and possibly losing your job is worth the attachment of not getting up earlier? Maybe you do lose your job but you got your sleep, was that worth it? Can you truly convince me that the low self-esteem that you have when you’re by yourself but the pompousness you put out in front of everybody else is for your highest and best interest, does that really help your soul journey? So, we want to see these for exactly what they are and sugarcoat them.
How, then, do we use Tao Healing to transform these? Step one; observation. See ego and see your attachment when it’s there. You have to be able to observe it first. Sometimes you have to walk it backwards. Sometimes you have to be in a disparate place or an anxious place, a place of fear and worry and walk it backwards. How did I get here? I got here because I was fearful about this. Why was I fearful about this? Well, because I said this, this, and that and if they find out then…. Well, obviously, the best choice would be do not say it, right? But you have to go back and say, Well, why did I do that?
Well, because I didn’t want this and this and that to occur because if this and this and that occurred then they would find out and that would break up everything. So, you have to go back to the original lie, the original cover up almost for ego. Because if you truly want to heal and stop that pattern it starts today, it starts the day you say I’ve created so much circumstance for myself that I’m not enjoying that I need to make a different set of choices in my life. So, every day you can choose to bring your honest and authentic self to the table. You can choose to be straightforward and in your heart, in your mind your going, “Oh my God, what are they going to think of me? What are they going to say?” And you say the truth and they get up and they walk out, you could be crushed or you could be like, “Well, at least I was honest and authentic and at least I don’t have to play that game for the next three years trying to cover up lie after lie.” Your choice. So, how do you remove ego? You be conscientious of it.
Now, once you identify that specific ego blockage, once you identify that specific attachment blockage, and, again, attachments are easy to discern, just pay attention. I gave you, like, 10 examples in a row, I wasn’t even really thinking they just kind of flew in. So, we are literally walking attachments, everything I have an attachment to having certain lights on while I do this, I have an attachment to the volume working properly, I have attachments to everything. But certain things are obviously not good for us so we want to pay attention, especially, to the ones that are not good for us. Right now, I have an attachment to eating when I don’t really need to eat. I’m not hungry, it’s just time so I just shove something in my mouth. How do I heal that?
How do you heal that? How do we heal an attachment with Tao Healing? Step one, acknowledge it. Step two, recognize that that is serving a purpose and if that purpose is not what we want to transform it. So, what’s the one sentence secret that has been taught many times? The purpose of every soul is to serve. Is that attachment or that ego response serving you? It's serving you to cover something up, it’s serving you to have a sense of comfort in the moment. But, ultimately, is it serving your largest desire? Is it serving your health and wellness? Is it serving your highest version of your highest self? Is it serving your soul journey? In most cases, probably not. So, you would connect. We use the four-power technique, and you would connect with all of the beings of love and light that you’re aligned to.
Could be Jesus, or Buddha, or Krishna, Kuan Yin, or God, or Source. Connect, step one. Step two, ask forgiveness for anyone, anywhere in time including yourself, always include yourself, that has been negatively impacted by your ego or your attachment and be specific about what that ego or attachment is. Please forgive me for having to have my coffee my way, with half this and double that and then when I tasted it and it wasn’t made right, I had a fit. Please forgive my attachment. Please forgive my disgust as I walk out of the coffee shop and say, “My God, I can’t believe these people. I give them very specific instructions and they can’t even get my coffee right!” Attachment. Ask Forgiveness.
Step three, if you have available to you a Tao Calligraphy or a healing light ball or a Tao Authority like Tao Healing Hands or Kuan Lin lineage, anything like that activate it, ask it to help clear that negative message, that ego, that attachment. If you do not know what those are, if you’re new and you’re like, “What is all of those things?” then you can chant the name of your favorite Being of Light. Let’s say it’s Jesus: Dear Jesus could you please bless me to help transform this attachment and then silently chant Jesus, Jesus, Jesus, Jesus. Let’s say you believe in Kuan Yin; chant Kuan Yin, Kuan Yin, Kuan Yin, Kuan Yin. If you have a favorite mantra (?), that’s a Buddhist mantra, there are many different mantras some people can chant (?).
The key is catch it, ask forgiveness for the creation of any damages to anybody as a result of your ego, your attachment, call the beings of love and light, and chant something of higher frequency and vibration. Rinse. Wash. Repeat. It doesn’t have to be complicated. When it happens again, which it will because you’re human and you’ve been living your entire life with ego and attachments, you continue this process: rinse, wash, repeat. The way we can clear our frequency and vibration of this consistent negative information, because it’s on our field, on our vibration, it’s very often what we learned, very often a defense mechanism.
We grow up with certain parents, certain peers, certain belief systems, certain schooling all of which contribute to the way we respond and react, our ego, our attachments. We go through the first 20, 30, or so years of life trying to figure out what life’s all about and right around age 30-40 we wake up, a few light bulbs start coming on, we start our soul journey in a very significant way but most of us on that path don’t really get the how-tos. This is the how- to because, ultimately, why did it form your ego? Why did you have those parents? Why did you have those peers? Why did you have all of those people enter your life? They were connected to you at the soul level, you’re in a group agreement. They’re serving you; you’re serving them. Part of the way they’re serving you is to give you the opportunities to see where you can become more aligned and pure.
So, start to see ego, start to see attachment as your friend and as the opportunities that they provide for you to transform those aspects of your life that are not bringing you to a place where you have the optimal wellness, peace and happiness. I’m going to offer everybody a blessing right now to help you to remember these four steps and to start to integrate this into your life. So, I want each of you to request for one attachment and one ego-based issue so, I’ll give you a minute. Choose an attachment that you know if you weren’t so attached to it your life would probably be better and as far as ego, think about an automatic reaction or automatic response that’s more of a defensive mechanism that you know is not appropriate. I’ll give you a minute.
Ok, prepare to receive, relax, place your hands on your lower abdomen, open your heart. If you don’t want to receive, just tell Heaven, “I don’t want to receive.” I’m activating a special transmission and these transmissions, please turn on, please offer everybody a blessing as appropriate that is listening live and listening on recording for their individual requests for their attachment and their ego. Start! This will be a semi-silent blessing, I will give you a little detail of what’s happening with this blessing. And what I see first in my spiritual eye is I see light radiating, it’s going out to light bodies, reading out to different light bodies which is you guys and I see it like rainbow hairs, rainbow waves that is permeating each of your bodies and it’s interesting because the ego and attachment is, like, everywhere, it’s no-specific in its location so your entire body is receiving a blessing.
Curious. Which tells me that it affects your cells, your DNA, it’s like an entire soul, mind, body blessing which is new information to me. So even though I put in the category of a mind-blockage this is certainly not going to the brain alone. I do see it in the spiritual heart and it’s a very bright white light in this area and I see it running through the meridians of your body and the message that I’m getting is that it’s not necessarily healing the meridians but it’s healing the energetics that the meridians are impacted with. When there is a form of an ego or attachment there is, apparently, some energetics that are re-activated every time and this is like doing its part to soften those aspects at that level. One more minute. (blessing continues, silently). There is significant forgiveness being offered to all of you for those that have been harmed by this ego or attachment and there is final message which is, for those of you who know the teachings of Doctor and Master Sha, the message is; love melts all blockages. So, consider using that for yourself to melt the ego and attachments, love yourself. Hao, hao, hao. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Ok, so I’m very, very grateful and happy to have you all here today and joining this wellness program. I really enjoy doing this podcast once a week. It’s something that I’ve been wanting to do for a long time. Since I became a center leader it wasn’t something I was able to do as often as I would like and, so, for those of you that are interested you can learn more about my programs, I have consultations, I have a daily healing membership where you can bring one specific issue whether it’s health, finances, or two or three specific issues depending on your level of membership.
Of course, if you have some health issues, physical, emotional, mental issues, spiritual relationship issues, that’s why I specialize in using this Tao Healing. So, I put the link in the chat and you’re welcome to follow that if you have any questions. I do have one or two free courses there and one or two paid courses there, these are all digital, on demand, and so everything I do is over the internet so you can remain in the privacy of your own home and allow me to serve you. So, thank you all for coming, thank you all for your wonderful comments, I look forward to seeing you. Make sure that you like and subscribe, share with others and we’ll talk to you very soon. Bye-bye everybody!
